Holiday Plans, Significant Other, and Family

Nothing too much new going on with me, but I wanted to pose a question to anyone reading this blog. How many of you guys will be taking your man to your family's for the Christmas holiday? Some members of my family still have issues with me being gay (like I really have a choice), so I am not sure I want to subject my BF to a possible awkward situation. On the other hand, I think my family needs to accept all of me, even if that includes a BF instead of a GF or wife. Coming from a strong Catholic background doesn't do a whole lot for my cause either. Let me know guys. Lates! Alex

Relationship Thawing with Ex

While cleaning about a week ago, I came across a small box of photos that belonged to my ex wife Roxanna. I decided to send her an e-mail telling her about the pictures and that I would like to have some coffee so we could chat. To my big surprise, she agreed to meet me. Up until this point, things were rather icy between us. At first, things were kind of awkward with some random chit chat. Then I told her that I needed to get some stuff off my chest. First, I apologized for all the pain that I caused her, and that though it was a huge mistake on my part, it was never my intention to deliberately hurt her. I explained that I truly did love her as a friend and used to have tons of fun with her. In my confused mind at the time, I thought that marrying my best friend would make everything perfect. I would be with someone full-time that I loved being around, and just maybe that "unnatural" attraction toward men would go away once I was married to a great lady. Well of course I found out the hard way that you can't change who you really are. Roxanna told me that for the longest time she hated and resented me. She felt duped and used, and of course the embarrassment that comes with a husband coming out is just insane. I think that this was the first time we actually were discussing our feelings in a calm and completely honest manner. We talked for over almost three hours just catching up on each others lives. We are going to try being friends again. It will take some work, but for the first time I think we are finally at a place to give it a try.